I’m Curious If You Think These Reasons To Break Up With Someone Are Completely Reasonable — Or Unreasonable

The latest reality TV show gripping the nation is The Ultimatum: Marry or Move On. It’s exactly what it sounds like: Couples who aren’t engaged yet (because one partner is hesitant) date other people for a month and then decide whether or not to get married. It’s WILD.


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The show has people talking about “deal breakers” in relationships, though. When is an issue too big to continue dating someone? At what point would you refuse to get engaged to someone based on a trait or disagreement?

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So here are some scenarios (some of which are directly inspired by the show). Imagine you’ve been with someone for two years, and you have to either get married or break up…tell us in each case if you think you’d marry the person or move on:

  1. 1. You and your partner don’t agree on whether or not you want to have kids.

    You and your partner don’t agree on whether or not you want to have kids.

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    Move on

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  1. 2. Your partner snores. Loudly.

    Your partner snores. Loudly.

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    Move on

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  1. 3. You and/or your partner aren’t currently financially stable.

    You and/or your partner aren’t currently financially stable.

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    Move on

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  1. 4. You and your partner don’t have the money to pay for the wedding you want to have.

    You and your partner don’t have the money to pay for the wedding you want to have.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 5. You and your partner have different sex drives.

    You and your partner have different sex drives.

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    Move on

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  1. 6. Your partner is a loud chewer when they eat.

    Your partner is a loud chewer when they eat.

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    Move on

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  1. 7. Your partner refuses to put pics of you on their Instagram.

    Your partner refuses to put pics of you on their Instagram.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 8. Your partner flirts with other people on social media.

    Your partner flirts with other people on social media.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 9. Your partner flirts with other people in person.

    Your partner flirts with other people in person.

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    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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  1. 10. Your partner emotionally cheated (i.e., fell in love with someone else and expressed those feelings to them).

    Your partner emotionally cheated (i.e., fell in love with someone else and expressed those feelings to them).

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    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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  1. 11. Your partner kissed someone else.

    Your partner kissed someone else.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 12. Your partner had sex with someone else.

    Your partner had sex with someone else.

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    Move on

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  1. 13. Your partner is still close friends with their ex.

    Your partner is still close friends with their ex.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 14. Your partner still has nudes of their ex saved on their phone.

    Your partner still has nudes of their ex saved on their phone.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 15. Your parents/family don’t approve of your partner.

    Your parents/family don’t approve of your partner.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 16. Your partner’s parents/family don’t approve of YOU.

    Your partner’s parents/family don’t approve of YOU.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 17. Your friends don’t like your partner and have told you so.

    Your friends don’t like your partner and have told you so.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 18. You and your partner have different religions.

    You and your partner have different religions.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 19. Your partner wants to be polyamorous and you don’t, or vice versa.

    Your partner wants to be polyamorous and you don’t, or vice versa.

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    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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  1. 20. Your partner sometimes embarrasses you in group settings.

    Your partner sometimes embarrasses you in group settings.

    Get married Correct Incorrect

    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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  1. 21. Your partner likes to go out and party very late, but you prefer to stay home (or vice versa).

    Your partner likes to go out and party very late, but you prefer to stay home (or vice versa).

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    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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  1. 22. Your partner expects you to be the sole “breadwinner” and expects not to have to have their own job.

    Your partner expects you to be the sole “breadwinner” and expects not to have to have their own job.

    Get married Correct Incorrect

    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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  1. 23. Your partner hates dogs/cats and you love them (or vice versa).

    Your partner hates dogs/cats and you love them (or vice versa).

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 24. Your partner doesn’t tip waitstaff.

    Your partner doesn’t tip waitstaff.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 25. Your partner picks their nose.

    Your partner picks their nose.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 26. You and your partner have very different views on money management (i.e., one of you is a big spender, while the other is frugal).

    You and your partner have very different views on money management (i.e., one of you is a big spender, while the other is frugal).

    Get married Correct Incorrect

    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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  1. 27. You don’t like your partner’s fashion choices.

    You don’t like your partner’s fashion choices.

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    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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  1. 28. Your partner smokes cigarettes and you don’t, or vice versa.

    Your partner smokes cigarettes and you don’t, or vice versa.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 29. Your partner smokes marijuana and you don’t, or vice versa.

    Your partner smokes marijuana and you don’t, or vice versa.

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    Get married

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    Move on

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  1. 30. You and your partner would have to have a long-distance relationship for at least one year.

    You and your partner would have to have a long-distance relationship for at least one year.

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    Get married

    Move on Correct Incorrect

    Move on

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